Tales from the Head’s Office #9
Many parents are getting ready for a big adventure this week.
For some it is the start of 5/6 weeks wonderful weeks with their children. They will spend lots of time together playing, talking, exploring, laughing. They will take the opportunity to just immerse themselves in family life & be happy that the routine of school is not getting in the way.
For others, the holidays bring a living nightmare.
Firstly, there are those working parents who have to arrange ‘cover’ for their youngsters. They go off to work but I suspect a great deal of thinking time is spent worrying about what the children are doing. In many cases the money earnt just covers the child minding fees!
The other nightmare sufferers are those parents who do not really know their children well enough to spend quality time together. For them it is one of the most expensive times of the year, trying to find ways to entertain their children who have become like strangers to them.
I have noticed that for a number of my blogger friends this school holiday will be like no other because their ‘little’ one will be off to school in September. For some of you, it is the last time this will happen as your family is already grown. From some of the comments I’ve read, many feel like it is the end of being mum 24/7. They question whether this should be happening. Where has the time gone? How will I cope?
Certainly it will be strange. Change is always strange at first but it is also a great opportunity. A chance to fill that space with some ‘you’ things. As your children learn & grow at school (they will be looked after very well I assure you! 😉 you must also grow & develop. You owe it to them to be something in addition to Mum.
That doesn’t mean you have to go out & carve a career in the stock market or become a chief executive! It just means using the skills & talents you have. Sadly I have seen parents (usually mums) who become the shell of their former selves when their children go to school. They seem lost & are unable to offer the balance that children need.
If you are one of those who will be ‘free’ in September use this holiday to share your children’s excitement about their new adventure. Start making a list of all the things you are going to do & be excited with them!