Are you a stressed single parent? How schools help
Are you a stressed single parent?
This article was sent to me by Daniel Sherwin, a stressed, single parent to his two children. In it, he explains there are things that schools can do to help you and how you can help yourself.
Managing stress as a single father can be difficult, even at the best of times. There can be so much pressure to do everything right, to remember a long list of things that need to be done, to find enough time in the day to do them all, and still spend time with your child. It can be overwhelming, and when stress takes over, depression, anxiety, and even substance abuse may follow. It’s important to learn the best ways to handle those feelings and, more importantly, how to prevent them.
If your child is in school, there are several things the teachers and counsellors can do to help out, but first, they need to hear from you and know that you need a hand. Keep the lines of communication open with them so they know when you need help. There are almost always several resources around for single parents, so make an effort to get involved in your community and find out what they are.
Talk to your child’s teacher
She may be able to introduce you to some other single parents in the classroom, and it will be helpful for her to know what sort of family life you have so she can take that into consideration throughout the year. For instance, you may need to request that she set up two separate conferences should she need to discuss your child’s performance: one for you, and one for your former partner. She’ll also be able to help you and your ex refrain from signing up for the same volunteer efforts, or from bringing in double the items needed for a birthday party or class project.
Look for communication apps
Life is busy, and it can be hard to keep up with emails and daily planners, especially if you have more than one child. Check to see if your school offers access to apps like Class Dojo, which allow you to stay in touch with your child’s teacher as they give you daily updates on behaviour, changes to the schedule, class projects, homework, and grades.
Talk to the counsellors at your child’s school to find out if there are resources available for single parents, such as a support group that meets nearby or online, or a group of parents who carpool. This kind of support can help take some of the weight off your shoulders and allow you to breathe a little easier, especially on busy days or when you’re stretched too thin.
Get financial help
Being a single parent is never easy, and that’s especially true when it comes to finances. It can be extremely difficult at times to make ends meet, and financial issues can be a huge source of stress. Ease the burden by looking into financial assistance at your child’s school, whether it helps with the cost of lunch or school supplies.
If you have needs that aren’t being met by the school, talk to the officials to see if there are any changes that can be made. The PTO is a great place to start. Should your schedule get too busy, they can provide help by giving you an at-home volunteer job to do or help come up with a way to provide low or no-cost childcare after school. Check out this list for more great ideas.
Maintaining regular communication with your child’s school will ensure that you’re able to work together for the entirety of your child’s educational career, so let them know what your needs are — and what your child’s needs are — for better assistance. You’re sure to find that this extra amount of support can go a long way in helping you navigate the stresses of single parenthood.
Are you a stressed single parent?
Do visit Daniel’s website Dadsolo for more support